best buddies

!! 100 Birthdays !!

My friend invited me to

his mom’s 100th birthday

party!!  Relatives-very

elderly relatives


thousands of miles

to be in his mom’s

backyard this afternoon.

I felt so honored to be

welcomed into their


I met the most interesting

people!  I was willing to

take risks, and, as always,

was rewarded.

I’m ready, as much as I’m

capable, and at a step at a

time, to rearrange my life

to reflect my new awareness,

it seems, that is dawning or

beginning to dawn on

me.  I want to be

braver, living my

life without later regrets.

Some way, I will

be able to change

my tack, heading

off in a new direction.

I’m glad I went.

Very rich experience.


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I want to enter into &

merge with your feelings.

I want a connection, a bond

to form,  unlike any I’ve ever

had before.

Those were tentative.  The

back door was always open.

Ready to be dashed out of at any

moment.  For an escape

of commitment.

How injurious of myself

to hesitate, to risk entering

into a feeling partnership

with another–at least

initially–to form a

basis for a stronger bond.

I must be easy on myself,

not ever having bared that

vulnerable part of myself

much in my life.

‘Mistakes’ of fear & hiding

as so painful.  Much

more so than opening

I would think when I have

the courage to do it.

I’m ready to start

practicing.  Any other

way is just too painful

to run from.


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Off The Beaten Track

Haven’t seen my friend for a while.

Or talked.

We explode, implode–very volatile


when we meet.

One topic is exhaustive–all

we talk about.

Arguments flail the air–

our strong feelings of being

“right” front & center.

So I suggest: what other

interests do you have, I might


That’s his homework.

A one-track life gets pretty


I am open to finding some

new interests myself,

so I may have more

varied topics of

conversation with

like-minded souls.





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If I was a grasshopper

or a praying mantis

I’d work on my grooming

and polish my angular


Who knows when another

of ‘my kind’ will appear

before my eyes dazzling

us both with our uniqueness.

We wouldn’t bug each other

as much if we weren’t bugs.

Our lives will be short

so we will make the

most of our days in the sun.

Food might not always

be plentiful but we will

make it through.

Nature is our source &


As long as we’re needed on

the planet, we will be here.

It’s good to go through

life with another angular

head who understands


Peacock feathers

Peacock feathers

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I want a friend.  One with feelings.  Laughing

is required as is a sense of humor.  A ready

laugh is important–the ability to enjoy

fully & outwardly a moment with another.

Being passionate about similar things,

not holding back the sharing of those “in


Someone who is willing to discuss options

and compromise occasionally.  Someone

who doesn’t always have to have it their

own way all the time.

You know when you’re with such an

‘easy’ friend.  They’re not wishy-washy,

nor are they stubbornly one-minded,

leaving you out of the equation almost


Maybe I ask too much these days of “doing

your own thing”.  Maybe.  But I remember

when friends negotiated.  Where one

wasn’t stronger or more influential

than the other when decisions & choices

were made.

Not to give up, or in to, your values, just to

be a friend who likes to laugh & have fun

and enjoy many of the same things


Maybe I’m picking the “wrong” friends

or I need more of them to meet my

needs.  I know who I’m interested in

spending more time with when I

meet them.  And all my requirements

may not be met but a lot of the

important ones will.

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Less is More

What do I love…most?

I love time alone…best

with nothing to do–

idle blissfulness

delving into the Self–

my inner thoughts

and feelings.

It’s not locked–really,

yet I don’t visit

there often enough,

it seems.

Slowing down & stopping

feverish activity–

even this writing–

may heal in ways

activity cannot touch.

I love to stay


as much as possible

without feeling

I’m neglecting


Everything should be

relatively effortless,


on the less !

Zion National Park, Utah

Zion National Park, Utah

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Friends are there

to catch you

when you fall.

Like a tightroper’s


they break your fall

so you don’t hurt

yourself when you

lose your balance &

fall off.

In the company of


you find friends.

You pick (or

they pick)

& choose

those souls

who align

with yours.

Not everyone

do you want

to hang out


That’s why

I said:  You

pick & you


are chosen.

Shyly, you


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Nature’s Pull

The pull of the wild

into the heart of

my soul



coaxing me into

her wooded mystery

I have to lay

down my day

or at least

part of it

to frequent

her hospitality

I left my mind

on the trails

I explored

free and


willing to

give all

to her embrace

& sweet pine


a day without

my love

seems barren




we’re together


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A Run Together

The gloominess gave way

to a pristine, bright day.

Dryness, the north wind


Puddles were fading fast.

People came out to move.

We ran & walked for

2 hours talking &

walking & running.

Someone with such

superb listening &

communication skills

was my companion.

I’ve not met anyone

who could stay with

my energy like that.

I completely felt heard–

& cared for.  It was

our first time out

together away from the

group where we met.

The ideal way to get

to know somebody,

in my opinion, is this

way we spent together


This was pretty much

a first for me as no one

can, or wants to, slow

down to my pace.

A very good day, indeed!

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Within Me

I want to turn off


and just be


for a while.

Who is this

person who

lives with/in


He rarely gets

a word in


with all my



here & there

to & fro

and NOT within.

I will call on

him today

to see how he’s


I can’t wait

to hear

what he has

to say

so long

it’s been

that we’ve spoken.

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